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6 Ways to Survive the Holidays with an Eating Disorder

Saturday, December 23rd, 2017

Magnificent as they are, the holidays can be stressful for anyone. But for the 30 million women and men in America who struggle with an eating disorder, the most wonderful time of the year can also be a full-blown, four-alarm holiday emergency, as Clark Griswold would say. I speak from experience: As someone who has battled anorexia and exercise addiction for well over a decade, that the extreme focus on food and eating, often accompanied by well-meaning but nonetheless insensitive comments, can be some tough shit.

For example, it’s not ideal when dear Aunt Carole won’t shut up about having to increase her crazy workouts to “work off all that ‘nog,” or how she just ordered a three-month supply of skinny tea to detox from the holidays and maybe you should too, or how she should really look into laxatives this time of year (the latter of which was actually said to me, if you can believe it 🙄), and you’re sitting there just trying to finish your pie without putting her face in it. These types of discussions can make staying on a recovery-oriented path even harder than it already is. So, Aunt Carole, take your skinny tea, rev up the RV, and hightail it back to Florida—please and thank you.

“When the holidays turn into something to ‘get through’ rather than something to look forward to and celebrate, something has gone terribly wrong,” says Carolyn Costin, MA, MEd, MFT, CEDS, FAED, founder of Monte Nido & Affiliates, a premiere eating disorder treatment center with locations across the United States. “For those who already struggle with food and body image, the holidays pose additional anxiety and pressure above what already exists during this season. The stress of the holidays, combined with the amount of food that’s involved, raises the stakes for anxiety and depression to take hold.”

I have always loved this time of year but when I had anorexia the holidays took on a whole new meaning.

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Costin knows all too well—she has not only treated patients with eating disorders for over 30 years and become one of the most prominent eating disorder therapists in the country, but she also recovered from the disease herself. “I have always loved this time of year but when I had anorexia the holidays took on a whole new meaning,” she says. “I still loved everything about the holidays, but the food part terrified me for days leading up to and after the holidays were over.”

To make things a bit easier, Costin offers the following tips (pie in the face is, unfortunately, not one of them):

Find ways to think differently about what the holidays could mean to you.
Rather than becoming nervous and upset under the stress and expectations, see the holidays as a time to be creative and do things you like to do and wouldn’t ordinarily take the time for. Make homemade holiday cards and presents, give clothing to homeless shelters, get together for caroling, help a needy family who can’t afford a tree or gifts, or go spend some time in nature. All of these things will turn your attention to tasks that are in the true spirit of thankfulness and giving.

Avoid commenting on anyone’s weight or food intake, and plan how to respond if people comment on yours.
Come up with a few statements that you could say that are kind and would apply in most situations. Practice saying them.

Put things into perspective.
Issues of food and weight need to take their proper place. Even if you have problems in this area, eating, weight, and body shape are not the most important thing about who you are, nor do they define your precious life. Remember that a holiday party, and the holidays in general, only last a short period of time. Keep in mind the most important things that matter to you in your life.

Eating, weight and body shape are not the most important thing about who you are, nor do they define your precious life.

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Balance is the key.
There are no bad foods, just bad eating behaviors. Eat in moderation and don’t deny yourself anything you really want. Avoid all or nothing and black and white thinking and behavior; it usually backfires. Plan for a time when you will want to eat something you think you shouldn’t. Don’t diet to prepare for the holidays—eat a balanced diet, which naturally fluctuates.

Plan ahead.
If you’re going to attend a party, eat well before going, and then enjoy some delicious treats at the party, too. Don’t restrict ahead of time to “save” up because there will be tempting food there.

Most importantly, if you eat more than planned, stop negative self-talk or judgment and talk to yourself like a friend or therapist would.
Accept it. Love yourself anyway and move on. Try the next thing. This is a learning and growing process.

A version of this article was originally published in December 2016.


40 Ways to Slay the Maximalist Street Style Trend

Monday, October 30th, 2017

We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: 2017 has been the year for maximalist dressing. A few years ago, minimalism stormed the fashion scene, with neutrals, pared-down layers, classic silhouettes, and a color called oatmeal that some consider soft and soothing, but TBH, we gotta admit that it’s a tad dreary. (Save it for the luxe throw at the end of your bed, ‘k?)

Now, we’re not saying that minimalism is over, or that it ever totally will be (hello, capsule wardrobes and classic all-black ensemble in the tradition of New Yorkers), but we—and everyone—seems to be having a lot more fun with fashion again. We’re mixing prints, clashing colors, adding a ruffle here, there and pretty much everywhere. Our inner Iris Apfel is rejoicing as we stop taking ourselves quite so seriously.

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I, personally, am a maximalist through and through, so I’ve been absolutely thriving in 2017. Minimalism never resonated with me, and I was always unsure if layering five necklaces at once was too much, or if a giant faux fur jacket was acceptable for a Monday morning meeting (side note: I’ve learned that they’re both perfectly acceptable and, IMHO, recommended).

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If you’re unsure how to embrace the maximalist trend without feeling like you’re dressing up for Halloween, we collected some of the most killer maximalist pieces and looks out there right now. Ahead, you’ll find everything from statement shoes and embellished bags to power coats and loads of color—so go ahead and add that extra layer or accessory, say yes to ruffles, embroidery, and heaps of playful patterns and textures.


21 Fresh-Feeling Ways to Wear and Style a Blazer Right Now

Thursday, October 26th, 2017

Whether you work in a corporate office or are a remote worker who coffee-shop-hops, blazers are the easiest way to make any old outfit look polished and put-together. Equally cool paired with jeans or a jumpsuit, there are practically unlimited ways to wear this boxy classic.

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Some of our favorite bloggers have demonstrated how to style blazers in ways that don’t remind us of the ’20s (although vintage can be chic, people!). Try rolling up the sleeves and dressing them down with a pair of ripped boyfriend jeans. Whether you go with one that’s menswear-inspired and oversized or cropped and feminine, playing with cuts, colors, and textures is the best way to find your blazer styling sweet spot.

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While blazers are ultimately practical pieces and may not feel quite as exciting to shop for as, say, crop tops or tasseled earrings, we promise you won’t regret shopping any of the ones ahead (nor copying any of the styling tricks you’ll see here).


The top 10 Christmas presents for 2015 – and the cheapest ways to buy

Tuesday, February 9th, 2016

The top 10 Christmas presents for 2015 – and the cheapest ways to buy
Here, with the help of, we track the prices of the most popular Christmas presents, and update them every week to make it easier for you to find the best deals. This guide was first published on October …. It's taken some time, but …

Can Everlane Make Ethical Chic?
Preysman is the fast-talking founder and chief executive officer of Everlane, the five-year-old online clothing company committed to, and capitalizing on, “radical transparency” about where its shirts, sweaters, T-shirts, pants, coats, shoes, and bags …
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Sir Terry Leahy-backed fashion site Atterley collapses into administration
The fashion company, known for its Scandinavian-inspired clothing, attracted £2m of fundraising from Sir Terry and Bob Willett, the former head of Best Buy International in 2014 with the view of expanding the business. … The website was founded in …

5 Ways to Wear Leggings in the Outside World, Inspired by Gigi Hadid, Kendall

Wednesday, December 16th, 2015

5 Ways to Wear Leggings in the Outside World, Inspired by Gigi Hadid, Kendall
Jenner and Selena Gomez had the same idea recently, disguising their leggings in all-black ensembles. Jenner stepped out in legging-y jeans, a mock turtleneck, cozy shearling coat and sneakers(!), while Gomez dressed hers up with a bell-sleeve coat …
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Fall Fashion: Too Warm to Be Cool
Women drawn to the thrilling collision of cultural, intellectual and literary mondes here may aspire to dress like Jackie O. in her editor incarnation, striding down Fifth Avenue in a black turtleneck and a heavy wool YSL coat — even if they wound up …
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The agony and the ecstasy of shoes
Even women who previously had no exposure to the world of high fashion were starting to recognize not only leading names of shoe designers but also the styles they were famous for, like stilettos for Blahnik, red heels for Louboutin and crystals for …
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Rags To Riches: 5 Ways To Earn Cash From Your Closet

Tuesday, January 13th, 2015

Rags To Riches: 5 Ways To Earn Cash From Your Closet
Let's face it – most of us have a plethora of clothes in our closet, but only wear about 20 percent of what we own, according to Ginny Snook Scott, chief design officer of California Closets. … Create your own online closet via two service options. 1 …

Mixed message in debenhams figures
Online orders on the day jumped 125%. However shares in the department store slid 8% after it warned that margins had been squeezed because a tough period for clothing sales resulted in an increased focus on lower margin trading categories such as …
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Wet Seal closures to include some Valley stores
Struggling teen and women's clothing retailer Wet Seal is closing two-thirds of its stores, including two plus-size stores in the Valley. Recently opened “Wet … Wet Seal will continue to operate 173 stores and its online business after the closures …
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Women’s Style Guide – How to wear a head scarf in 3 different ways

Wednesday, December 31st, 2014

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6 Inexpensive Ways to Upgrade Your Fall Wardrobe

Friday, September 12th, 2014

6 Inexpensive Ways to Upgrade Your Fall Wardrobe
As summer comes to an end, women across the country are beginning to pack away their summer dresses, shorts and sandals in exchange for clothing more fitting of cooler temperatures. Before you cave in to the temptation of … Just be mindful of what …
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Going Constantia on service providers in SA
I do my shopping, eat out at restaurants and buy take-aways from well-known restaurant chains. I have a car, a house, medical aid and … I always hated having to deal with finicky and demanding customers. That is the reason I never complained about …
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INLD campaign targets Hooda's 'Gulabi Gang'
The Indian National Lok Dal (INLD), which adheres to its green colour-code in the dresses worn by its leaders, is targeting the ruling Congress's pink (gulabi) used at its events and in leaders' outfits. INLD has launched a … To target the Hooda …
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25 Ways to Wear a Scarf in 4.5 Minutes!

Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

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3 Ways to Wear Gray Hair Over 40

Thursday, February 27th, 2014

The decision to go gray naturally is often a difficult one. This week I am featuring 3 gals who prove that you can be stylish, fabulous…and gray! The Gray Pixie The pixie isn’t a hair style just anyone can pull off. Cutting off all your hair and wearing a pixie cut is a brave step. […]

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